The Bastards Won't Win! Risking it All to Stay Together

Unprogrammed

By Elena

I believe that not wanting sex - "asexuality" - isn't a newly discovered phenomenon. It's just that social programming in the Western world, in connection with sex (also with not wanting to have children or to partner with someone), is so prominent that people feel awkward if they don't want it.

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A Pair of Aces

By Meg

We have come out of an all too prevalent closet, hidden under the LGBT blanket. It’s taken a number of years, and the common misconception is that because we are two women that want to be together, we are lesbian (homosexual) and in a sexual relationship. The reality is, our relationship isn’t based on sex and it never was, nor was it even a consideration. Although this really doesn’t matter to us, classification seems to be terribly important. It also helps define how we want to be treated by others.
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Possible reasons for citizenship refusal

By Meg

Any of these might have something to do with IRCC's negative decision on Elena's citizenship application: (more…)

Symbols of Our Love

By Elena

Atlas ring

Before we met in person in Kiev, in emails to me, Meg told me about a golden ring she had with Roman numerals. It represented time and space: the clock and the compass. To Meg it also represented the potential of attaining the unimaginable. (more…)

Why don’t we appeal?

By Meg

It’s looking like we did everything right: did our time, paid our fees, jumped through the hoops, and they (Immigration Refugees Citizenship Canada) messed up. Probably, on purpose (see The reasons why). We screwed up by assuming that like a normal organization they would see their oversights, fix them, and live up to their end of the contract: give us the service we paid for in full (with our money and years of our finite lives). (more…)

Elena is refused Canadian citizenship: what we’re going to do

By Meg

Canada has spoken: we are not welcome. Okay, we get it, and let’s face it, Canada is really not our kind of party scene! Reality is: we just want to be together, being a family with citizenship in the same country would be a total bonus. Elena’s objective wasn’t to be Canadian, it was to be with me. All we want is a bit of safety, not to be separated, to be equals, to pursue our dreams, to adventure on our sailboat and see some of the world that denied us landing all those years ago, when we fled for our lives across half this amazing planet.

What Now? (more…)

Course: Oblivion

By Elena

And that’s it, Meg and I won’t be a Canadian family, because I won’t be Canadian citizen.

We’ve been coasting on the hope of us one day being equal and not living with the fear of being separated due to us being citizens of different countries for so many years, we both feel hollowed out. (more…)

Our adventures in North America

By Elena

Невероятное возможно!

By Elena

Мы с Мег действительно совершили странствие длинной в год и пересекли полмира, чтобы быть вместе. Большая часть пути, от турецкого Мармариса до города Виктория в Канаде, где жила Мег, пролегала через моря и океаны и нам ничего другого не оставалось, как покрыть их на парусной яхте. (more…)

Achieving the Unimaginable

By Elena


 

Meg and I, over an entire year, crossed half the planet – from Ukraine to Canada’s west coast – in order to be together. Most of that trip, from Turkey to British Columbia, where Meg had a home, was by sailboat. We had no other option. We embarked on this endeavor, not just because Meg had some aviation experience and the money to buy a sailboat, but because we couldn’t help but do this. (more…)

Shimmering possibility of citizenship

By Elena

This morning I checked my online citizenship application status, as I did throughout the course of more than 6 years, and thought I was still dreaming. “In process” transformed into “Decision Made”. I will supposedly “receive correspondence within the next three months.” Three months to get in touch with me? They also don’t tell you what the decision is! For what possible reason? To keep the torture going a while longer, I figure. (more…)

Make your own rights

By Meg

It really comes down to making, taking, or faking your own human rights, or equality, or dignity, or safety. The fact that there are “rights” at all, means that there is someone (or thing) threatening those rights. Declaring you lesser than they, by not letting you do something that they can. Usually, imposing that inequality for their own bloody aggrandizement. (more…)

Outrunning Winter of 2017-2018

By Meg

In summer/fall of 2017 Meg and I got trapped in Nova Scotia with Canada refusing to issue me a Travel Document. After a reporter spooked Canadian department responsible I was issued the document in a matter of hours and we escaped the winter in the nick of time saving our lives and our ship.

Superwoman at the helm (more…)

Meg Tells Our Story – Convergence

By Meg

In 2005 I met a Russian architect online. Little did I know, she was literally fighting for her life. Our meeting a year later, in Kiev, Ukraine, unleashed a convergence of events that had us running for our lives and our love, across the entire planet.

I set out to save the life of this extraordinary woman, but in the end, I also saved my own. (more…)

Elena Tells Our Story – Talking to the Moon

By Elena

In 2006 Meg, a Canadian, and I, Elena – a Russian – sailed half the planet to be together.

I had never seen the ocean. Meg had only day-sailed in protected waters, but took on this planet-crossing escape, without question. As an ordinary, well-to-do westerner, what she did was unthinkable; risked everything: social status, her savings, her life.

To be with Meg, I lost everyone I had ever known, my home, my profession and my country. (more…)